We've recently been bombarded with talks about the Selfie-generation, the young people who always believe the world is revolving around them, and that nothing else matters but their own lives.
What happened to those self-less people, those who are there for You? They are there for you, not for themselves. Those people who actually live for the others, and want to give to others... Today we're afraid to say that we don't care about other people, we constantly repeat how caring and loving we all are, and how much we love every little silly photo in the social media posted by a distant friend, but do we really care? If we're honest with each other... No, be honest only with yourself. I don't need to hear the answer, it's for you. The answer for me, is for me.
I don't think that mindless praising here and there is helpful. I believe in criticism, only when it is honest and has nothing to do with my personality, but with my ability to do (or not) something.
Now take this story for an example. A young man, at his 30s, still lives with mom and dad, has MA degree, and is looking for a job. A head hunter finds him and offers him a great opportunity - a job for a big company, with lots of remunerations and bonus packages, etc. It's more than perfect. The only downside - it's 50 km away from the city center, BUT the company offers to pay the guy for his rented apartment, which THEY will find him. This means, they will arrange everything! He isn't pleased with the news. After a few days, he says he declines the job. He doesn't want to live away from his friends in the city center.
The moral of the story? For most young people of my generation, it's always about ME! And if 'Me' isn't given what 'Me' wants, then it isn't worth even the try. 'Me' wants the ideal situation, the ideal job, the ideal partner, the ideal relationships, ideal parents, ideal world..... Everything must be exactly what 'Me' wants! If a friend doesn't do exactly what 'Me' wants, then that friend shouldn't be a friend any more. If people don't understand 'Me', then it's them at fault. If 'Me' don't get along with people at work, it's all the employees who are at fault. They must be changed - move to another job, and to another, and another... Change everything and everyone who doesn't fit 'Me''s exact formulas. But there's no formula! I only see an unsatisfied spoiled 'Me'. It can all boil down to the parents and the family, but they are only partially the problem. Well, other, more educated in psychology, people have discussed that issue publicly, so I won't go in those deep waters now.
All of these thoughts, and few more triggers, made me think... The world matters only when you put a smile on someone else's face, when you see the grateful eyes of a child you helped, the eyes of an old person you helped, or just told a silly joke and a pair of sad eyes suddenly lit with life again.
Doing good for others shouldn't be obligatory. If it doesn't come from the heart, then that same heart must be mended.